Read in SuperBetter today, the book that teaches you the game that gives you 10 extra years of life by making you more emotionally, physically, mentally, and socially resilient, therefore, happier and stronger. Check out her TED talk, it’s amazing (and really fun to play with her)!
One of the science-based tips to help develop self-compassion:
1. Notice when you suffer. Don’t brush it off. Take a moment and acknowledge it. Are you stressed? Disappointed? Sad? Ashamed? Scared?
2. Let yourself feel a desire to ease that suffering, just as you would try to ease the suffering of any friend or loved one. If this is hard for you -if your tendency is to be harsh on yourself or self-critical- imagined a beloved friend, family member, or even a cherished pet experiencing the same distress. How would you treat them?
3. Recognise that you are not alone in your suffering. It’s part of the shared human experience that connects you to others.
Then, place both hands against your heart as a reminder to be kind to yourself. Feel the warmth of your hands, and take three deep, relaxing breaths. At least fifteen seconds. Repeat as often as needed.
It’s called “Taking a “hands over heart” moment. ❤️
